My son’s autism diagnosis shocked me less than his proposed therapy schedule. The clinicians proclaimed that he needed 25-35 hours of therapy. Without it, he may not have the tools to be mainstreamed in school.
I struggled with this mightily.
Specialists came to our home and saw him at the early intervention center. He is not the child you see, I explained. Tyoma was sweet, playful, and bright. He only ran around maniacally because everything was so new. Sympathetic smiles and pity faces were stock responses.
Let me emphasize–I don’t begrudge the efforts of the regional autism center. Several staff members, however, left me feeling patronized and disbelieved.
For two years I absorbed book after book about autism therapy—A.B.A., Floortime, DIR, and RDI. All of these treatments had one thing in common–they sort of worked, some of the time.
Ultimately, when Tyoma was in a teachable place—he learned. When Tyoma was disorganized, these interventions failed.
Visits from Tyoma’s early intervention SLP unnerved us. She tried to engage my son with new toys and uber-enthusiasm. He scurried away from her at every opportunity. Another specialist launched a power struggle with him over throwing toys. As if discipline always worked!
Our final therapist turned treatment around. Her gifted son had Asperger’s. Introducing us to a strength-based approach, she empowered our entire family. Our services evolved into supportive and constructive plans. Confidence in our parenting returned.
The trend of playing to Tyoma’s strengths quadrupled in preschool, under Ms. Jerri’s watchful eye. Her team’s high quality attention, structure and visual supports brought us order and coping skills.Tyoma thrived. I thrived too! I had a team of professionals dispensing expert advice.
Ms. Jerri introduced us to Occupational Therapy (OT).
WebMD’s definition of OT goals explains it best:
The overall goal of occupational therapy is to help the person with autism improve his or her quality of life. This includes life at home and at school. The therapist helps introduce, maintain, and improve skills. That way, people with autism can be as independent as possible.
OT is one of my top three of Rockin’ Autism Therapies (the other two being social stories and rewards). Without fail, these three have helped us through many difficult days. OT strategies are our first line of action.
Because Tyoma’s biggest obstacle to learning is his anxiety level. Too much stress or excitement whips him into an obsessive, impatient frenzy. He is too overwhelmed to learn.
Our school OT, Ms. Wetherbee, keeps Tyoma grounded and focused in class. He can’t process vital social stories or work toward goals until his anxiety is tamed. Her interventions build awareness and give him control.
Ms. Wetherbee compares her work to soothing an infant:
“You have calming strategies for when an infant is crying and sometimes they work, sometimes they don’t. You can try a strategy that didn’t work earlier–sometimes it will work later. Sometimes something stops working and then you try it again months later, and it works. Just keep trying!”
This simplifies her work greatly, but the core of her intervention is anxiety management. This is exactly what our whole family needs!The best thing I have learned about OT is how diverse and fun the approach is.
I have plenty of tricks to share with you (coming soon!). Her strategies are concrete (yay!) and dissipate anxiety.
Until then, please enjoy the collage Tyoma and I put together of Ms. Wetherbee and her magic OT tools!
This is a re-post while I cope with my son’s return to school. Hope you enjoyed!
Digital elements by Fiddlette’s Studio.